Understanding how we are wired as humans enables us to develop a better opportunity to nurture people
Five interlocking drivers impact our behaviour, Royston Guests explains in more detail. Once you have watched the film, take time to consider each of the drivers and how they affect your life. Which are the two most relevant to you? Understanding this will enable you to read other people better. It also gives you essential insights into how to deal with different people in varying situations. Viewing time: 10 minutes; 12 seconds Reading time: 4 minutes; 10 seconds
Recognising the five interlocking drivers that make you tick
More often than not, you can only be equipped to help others if you have a strong understanding of yourself. You have to do the inner work first. And that inside job is about understanding what makes you tick and, more importantly, the five interlocking human drivers. There’ll be aspects of your life where you can achieve winning results by allowing a particular driver to come to the fore. Still, there’ll be others that, allowing a driver to dominate your thinking and actions, could derail your efforts. Driver one: Certainty
The need for certainty can lead you to make decisions that are well thought through and have predictable outcomes. But it can also lead to procrastination, analysis paralysis and attempts to control things and people too tightly. Take a moment to think about this: in what areas of your life do you feel you have a foundational need for certainty; is it a stable home or relationship? A secure job? A particular amount of money in the bank? Don’t let your need for certainty translate into insecurity.
Driver two: Adventure
Picture this scenario: you know what you will be doing every minute, every hour, every day, month and year from this day forth for the rest of your life. How does that make you feel? Bored? Comfortable?
As humans, we need adventure, mystery, the unknown and surprise. That is how we know we are alive. However, adventure can change from being a positive enabler to something potentially unsettling because adventure is, by definition, uncertain. So what happens when the pendulum swings from adventure to uncertainty? Adventure may seem fun and exciting, but framing it as uncertainty becomes the opposite of Driver 1: Certainty. For many people, uncertainty is enough to freak them out, slamming the brakes on their need and desire for adventure. At this point, they remain between a rock and a hard place.
Driver three: Significance
We all long for significance. We all want to matter and be considered relevant, useful and valuable. We can be significant to our colleagues and bosses, our friends who appreciate our support and care, and our families who love us unconditionally and rely upon us as a critical part of their lives.
You may feel great significance when others praise you for your capabilities and achievements. Or you may feel significant when you know you’ve achieved something great regardless of the external validation you may or may not receive. The same need is met, just through different sources.
A feeling of significance can drive us to achieve amazing things: to be loving parents and partners, valuable friends, and team leaders, write books, build companies and run countries. But it can also drive negative behaviour, where we achieve significance by putting others down or being overly critical. Our need to feel important can lead us to become blinded to the needs of others as we attain significance, whatever the cost.
Driver four: Belonging
They say no person is an island, and, in today’s world, being aware of this is perhaps more critical than ever. We’re more connected than ever, and yet human connections – real, genuine human relationships – are becoming more complex than ever to make. In our need to meet the human driver of belonging, we don’t seek to lead but to be part of a pack and a welcome member of something much larger than ourselves.
Driver five: Growth
Few things feel worse than a sense that you’re being left behind. And few things feel better than a sense that you’re improving, advancing, getting better at something and increasing your value to your family, work, community and even the world. Growth is a crucial driver for us all. And there are very few limitations when learning and acquiring more skills or knowledge.
Nothing on this earth is standing still. You are either growing or dying, whether it’s a tree or a human being. If you’re not growing, you will be left behind! The opposite of growth is in a rut, and nothing is more soul-destroying than that.
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